My grandma, who had five children in six years, has always talked to me about not sweating the small stuff. She’s almost 91 and I think this lifelong attitude has helped her not only have a long life but a very happy one, too. She’s told me on occasion, “Don’t worry about the chores, they will wait, patiently.” Or “If it won’t matter in a year, why bother worrying about it?” And “The small stuff, well the small stuff doesn’t really matter and the big stuff, well the big stuff you’ll make time for.” When you have four kids in two years or five kids in six years, the small stuff just kind of fades to the background.
“Don’t worry about the chores, they will wait patiently.” -Grandma T.
A perfect example how I try not to sweat the small stuff is how I don’t fold laundry anymore. If it’s clean, I’m happy. Sorted, even happier. In the drier and clean and dry, that’s okay, too.
The differences in how I’ve started out with the two sets of twins are another example. With the first set, I tried to soothe using anything but bottles and pacifiers. Though later, they needed bottles anyway. With the second set, I started them from day one with pacifiers (loved that decision!) and they never had a bottle in their life! It’s so funny how you can have an idea of how things will go before you have kids and then in reality, you learn how to let go and not sweat the small stuff!
Kathleen is a mom of three sets of spontaneous twins.